Eroticizing Myself
it's the consent that matters
Forum: Strap-on.org
Date: 01/24/2002
i know that fetishization sucks. *so i avoid it.* > i know that trannyhawking sucks, i know that it would be invalidating for me as a trans woman to be drooled over by a bunch of gay men who saw me as some weird or exotic sort of fag, or, for that matter, by straight women who might for whatever reason think i'm "the best of both worlds" or whatever bullshit. > SO I DON'T GO TO FAG CLUBS TO PICK UP DATES. > I DON'T PERFORM IN DRAG SHOWS, go to gay male sex clubs, fuck people who want to see me as a man, and then complain that they're fetishizing me.
Sadie, isn't there any difference between consentual and unconsentual eroticization? Or, is there anything wrong with complaining about unconsentual fetishization of our bodies, while benefiting from consentual eroticization?
As an Asian woman, I can't generally escape the fact that straight men (and sometimes lesbians and bi women) will fetishize me for my race. As an Asian hooker, I negotiate how my body is eroticized, and charge them a lot of money for my performance. Are you saying that if I don't want to be unconsentually fetishized, I should not eroticize myself? Or, are you saying that if I choose to eroticize myself for money I would suddenly lose my right to protest unconsentual fetishization of my body? Now that's getting pretty close to saying that if one was wearing a mini-skirt she was asking to be raped...
Of course, whether or not to have orgies at TSC or at Camp Trans is an entirely separate discussion - and I tend to agree with Stacey that it is more important to provide a supportive environment for trans youth than to provide sex parties for adults.
Emigrl
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